We live in the golden age of dating thanks to the internet and its ease of use. Whilst we can still go out to try to meet a new lover in the flesh; most of us prefer the convenience offered by dating websites. This makes a lot of sense, after all sending a quick message to someone online is easier than approaching that same person in the streets; especially when approaching them about dating. So surely this means that everyone can get successful at dating right? Well no quite, the truth is that if you want to date or even find no strings sex, it helps if you’ve got experience; so here’s a few tips that can help you be a better lover.
Read on…
Tip#1 – Just be you.
So you might be this person who is naturally hard to approach, or maybe you don’t play well with others? Well don’t worry, it is who you are and you should stick to you guns. There are actually a lot of other people who are the same, and some of them will be single too. So when you enter a normal dating site or even an adult one, just say in your profile that you’re not a social animal. Sure it will put some people off, but the people who understand and respect where you’re coming from are more likely to contact you. So basically, just be you and like-minded people will come to you, even if it takes longer.
Tip#2 – Look and listen.
Everyone has needs, but we often forget to take to time to hear what those needs are. Some people end up just not being able to please their girlfriend because they simply don’t know what she wants. So the advice here is for you to not get drowned under the sound of your own voice. When you’re chatting online or even meeting for that date, make sure you’re not doing twenty minute monologues. Instead ask your potential partner some questions and use open ended phrases. The more you know about your partner, the better love you can be; and there is no better technique than listening and learning. The best thing about this is that you literally don’t need to do anything other than have your ears open, and the benefits are just immeasurably good!
Tip#3 – Get cultivated.
Love and sex isn’t something you just make up in your head. There are a lot of good books, magazines and even movies where you can learn a lot about being a good lover. Read about new sexual positions and learn how the whole chemistry of sex works, you’ll be surprised at how much it helps to make you a more confident and competent lover. Some men probably think that all the good techniques come from their own head, but the reality is that you got to get out of your own ego to learn that stuff. After all, a lot of these books are written by people who have way more experience than you; so listen and learn from the best, they’ve already done a lot of the hard work for you!