The stereotypical “story with a happy ending” usually involves two people realizing they are each other’s soul mate, which later leads to them living happily ever after. However, it’s not just two people in some cases, is it? Many of us not only dream, but prefer open relationships over traditional ones. Instead of calling them cheating wives and husbands, the proper term for these folk is swingers. And although it’s a wide-spread phenomenon, it’s not easy to dive into the world of swinging and open relationships, especially if you never had any sort of contact with this topic.

In that name, here are the most important rules and facts that you need to know before becoming a swinger.

Read on…

Meeting Others

Finding people who are just as interested in swinging as you are is nothing like trying to find a girlfriend or a boyfriend at a club. Instead, you’re presented with two major options: lifestyle clubs and websites.

There are more swinger clubs out there than you might think and the best way to find them is probably through the internet. Just type in ‘swingers clubs’ or ‘lifestyle clubs’ in your search bar, narrow the results down to your area and you’ll see where good places to start are.

Speaking of the internet, another good way to find fellow swingers are swinger social networks. Websites like Kasidie and SDC are your best bet for starters – they work very similarly to dating sites and are generally easy to use.

Figuring Out What You Want

Swinging isn’t just about couples getting together and engaging in sexual acts while exchanging partners. In truth, this is just one form of swinging, as there are many variations to it. So, before you even start looking for other swingers, you and your partner need to establish a common goal. This includes a lot of compromise and trust, so make sure you have a good, long talk with your husband/wife regarding what kind of experience each of you is looking to get.

For example, some people just want to bring another woman into their bed, while others would like nothing more than to get it on with another couple. Also, the intensity of these encounters vary, since they can go from simple kissing and cuddling to full-blown BDSM.

Trust Above All Else

If you’ve ever been in an open relationship (and since you’re considering swinging, we’re guessing you have), you know it’s all about trust. When it comes to swinging, trust is even more on demand, since both partners are actually there for the ‘open’ part of the open relationship.

Don’t worry if you seem to have trust issues, especially in the early stages of your and your partner’s swinging endeavors. Trusting your other half completely will take some time and a lot of talking, but once you both get over the issues, your bond will become much stronger and you’ll have much more trust and respect for each other.

In short: swinging isn’t taboo anymore, but it still requires a healthy dose of effort, communication and persistence.