The beginning of “swinging“, which was first given the name “wife swappers”, started in the 1950’s and was common among U.S Air Force fighter pilots, mostly in suburban areas.
“Key clubs” became extremely popular during this time. These were gatherings in which the husbands would throw their house keys in the middle of a pile. In return, the wives took turns picking up a set of keys. Whoever owned the keys, would be her sexual partner for the evening.
Adding an extra person, or two, to any couple’s bedroom experience may light a sexual wild fire that can never be extinguished. Bring up the conversation and see where it takes you. It never hurts to try something new!
The swinging lifestyle is nothing new. The concept has been around for years. The only difference is that people have started talking about it more openly. If you and your partner would like to get a little kinky and experiment with this sexual adventure, you’re probably looking for a way to start your journey.
So how should you go about being a new couple in the swinging lifestyle? Here are seven things that you must consider and do before you start swinging.
Discuss why you want to swing with your partner.
This is the first and most important step in deciding you you, as a couple want to explore the swinging lifestyle! Openly communicate your feelings to each other to create a comfortable atmosphere and decide you you want to proceed.
Getting started in swinging.
There are plenty of options to get started in the swinging lifestyle. You can begin with locally organized swinger parties (commonly referred to as “fuck meets”) or skip directly to lavish swinger cruises. It all depends on your budget, preferences, and the degree of excitement you are seeking..
Establish clear boundaries and ground rules.
Whatever you choice is for your first swinging experience, it is important to set some rules for before starting. For example, if you are both going to a swingers’ party and either one of you wants to leave early, is it okay for the other partner to remain behind, or is it understood that both of you will leave together.
Other rules may include being in the same room or being comfortable seeing your partner having sex with another person.
Develop a “swinger personae”.
If you want to take part in this lifestyle, you need to start working on how you present yourself to your new possible swinger play partners. Whether you’re looking for a swinging partner online or at a club, make sure you display your best traits to attract the most people. Many swinging couples use aliased names for privacy reasons, and this is perfectly acceptable in swinging culture.
Explore swinging culture online.
If you’re not sure about attending a live swinger party or joining a club when just starting out, you can always find other swinger couples on the internet. It’s a great place to meet others swingers and even be part of discussion groups to share ask questions and learn from others’ experiences and best practices.
The Internet has many adult personals swinger sites where you get to find a lot of people sharing the similar interest. All you need to is create a couples profile, and start your search through member profiles. It’s also quite acceptable to use an avatar rather than your real photos if you want to protect your privacy. Always remember that any photo of you that you put on the internet will stay on the internet FOREVER, for you boss, coworkers and family to stumble across, so use caution.
Meet potential play partners before your first play date.
It is always recommended to meet the potential swinger couples the first time first, so you can see whether they look or talk the same as they did online. Lunch at a local restaurant or drinks at a pub after work are ideal settings for getting to know the other play partners before diving into sex with them If you don’t feel a connection, simply move on.
Go to a swinging club.
There are probably more swingers clubs in your area than you may have know existed! A quick internet search will help you know the exact location, schedule of events and, most importantly, what the rules and protocols are for each venue.
Adopting a swinging lifestyle is not difficult, if you and your partner are aware of what’s the course of the action. Whether it’s going to a swinger party or club, or going on a swingers cruise, it can possibly give you some amazing moments and also enhance your primary relationship with your partner.
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