The future might be bright for our sexuality

by Lola Lovely at Sssh.com Porn For Women

I’m feeling good after reading Hannah Jane Parkinson’s piece on sexuality on a spectrum. It gives me hope. Because years ago when I discovered my sexuality was not strictly hetero, yet not quite bisexual either, I never told anyone because I didn’t want to be boxed in by a label. I wasn’t sure what I was, and wasn’t ready for a single label to define me. As the time went by I met more and more people who were like me. Not quite anywhere and yet not ready to be boxed in.

The concept of fluid sexuality, or sexuality on a spectrum is fascinating to me because I secretly believe that if we truly explore our own sexuality it will be open and non-judgemental. Maybe not everyone will be truly open, that’s why we have the Kinsey scale, but there would definitely be less pressure to ‘pick one’.

The future looks bright for us lot though. A poll conducted by YouGov found that, at least in Britain, almost half (48%) of 18 – 24-year-olds would not classify themselves as heterosexual. That’s big news. Good news. It seems like the younger generation is less concerned about what you do with your private bits and who you do it with. And without much fanfare they seems to be choosing whomever they want to be whatever with.

Younger celebrities like Cara Delevigne, Kristen Stewart and Tom Daley, seem less concerned about being the gold standard of their supposed gender, instead choosing to date whomever they want without having to announce it to the world. It’s refreshing. It’s hopeful.

I’m not saying that this is it, the moment we’ve been waiting for. That our work here is done. We’ve sorted it all out and people can just carry on and be whomever they want to be and date whomever they want to date without worrying that they’ll be judged. Nope. Sadly, it isn’t the case.

For every person who can freely love whomever, there are many who are still getting beaten up at merely a hint of not being fully heterosexual. For every open marriage there are women who are going through female circumcision. So yeah, there is still a long road ahead of us!

Still, it’s nice to think that in the future, there will be more people who won’t feel the need to box others in. Who will be having kids with this mindset. It will carry on, it will spread. The more I mix around, the more I find these people, the less of an outcast I feel like. The more ‘me’ I become. The more I relax into my body, the more pleasure I feel, the more everything I feel. Don’t believe me? Try it yourself. Nothing feels better than full acceptance.