About Sexting – Interview With A BDSM Mistress

By Contribution Author, Madeline Foster-Prosser

“It’s a shame that I don’t have a full-time slave or sub partner,” claims Mistress Alexa. “To be honest, I just cannot seem to find the time to fit anyone else into my schedule. In fact, I barely get a chance to visit family and friends these days.”

Read on…

Like many other BDSM Mistresses, Alexa works in the phone sex (sexting) industry as a professional fetish chat host earning extra money. “By extra, I  mean, I take home about 400 dollars per week,” she says with conviction.  “I could probably make more if I logged on more often, but I do have a full-time job during the day. The money I make from chatting is what I use for spending money, the rest goes in the bank for necessities and to secure my investments and retirement. This job just makes sense to me.  Women need to take care of their own finances so they never have to rely on anyone. It is something that we often forget to teach young women.  I learned this lesson at a very young age when Dad passed away and left mom completely broke. I made a promise to myself that very day that I would never let a financial crisis like that happen to me. I didn’t, I became a Chartered Accountant.”

I interviewed her one morning in a very dark, black and red makeshift dungeon she had recently installed in the basement of her centuries old two story brownstone. It was really quite fabulous. The interior and exterior design would have made Elvira proud and probably could have provided the perfect backdrop for a scene out of a graphic Hollywood horror movie. I must admit, it was not the dungeon or the brownstone that fascinated me but rather, the sheer number of times her phone buzzed on the marble table sitting in front of us.

Texts and phone calls from would be slaves begging to spend some time with her were coming in from all over the world. She ignored half of them and quickly replied to some as we continued to sip tea and talk about her life.

“Begging is part of my practice,” she explained. “Though it is probably not the most profitable way to do things, I will only talk to submissives who beg me properly. It is part of what excites these individuals and allows me to choose only worthy clients. Fetish chat, you must understand is not like other adult chat, it takes time and commitment if you are going to do it properly. If the person on the other end of the line simply wants to get off, they can choose any type of chat host for that. It is not the service I provide, in fact, BDSM in reality, is not really about sex at all.  I am committed to what I do and part of the reason that I do make a great deal of money is because I spend quality time with my clients.”

What I learned from Alexa about fetish chat that day was very enlightening and can be summarized in a few points.

1) Less is not always more when it comes to BDSM and fetish chat.

Quality time spent with one client is actually more profitable than spending two minutes with someone who can just as easily search for porn.  They will never become repeat clients and they simply are trying to get free services.

2) Sexting and fetish chat are unique personal connections that happen over a mobile phone.

Most customers call because they need help with sexually related issues and are too shy or unable to discuss them with anyone. Arousr.com and other phone sex providers offer a much-needed service regardless of what people think.  Talking with a stranger helps these individuals explore fantasies and work out issues so they can lead productive lives.

3) Sexting is a great part time job for anyone who is sexually positive and yes that includes, men, TVTS, and fetishists too!

Interested in applying for a fetish chat position? Our friends at Arousr.com are currently looking for fetish sexting hosts. Apply on https://arousr.com