Doing the research on this topic Carrie Bradshaw style, I asked my long-term boyfriend whether men liked foreplay, and got a simple, “Not really.”
The straight answer kind of took me off guard because to be perfectly honest; I can’t recall the last time we had a quickie. So what does that mean? If men don’t like foreplay, and still engage in it, does that mean they do it for the ladies that are into it?
Again, using my boyfriend as a (hopefully) reliable source of information on the topic, he says, “Well, yeah.”
I have to say I’m not really sure how I feel about this information because we’re not into anything weird sexually that requires one partner to do what the other one demands, like BDSM. He’s not into cougar dating either where he’d have to make her every wish come true given that he’s slightly older than me, and whichever way I try to slice it, I remain puzzled.
Can it be that men are much more selfless in bed than we think?
#1: It Depends on the Stage of the Relationship
The explanation to my little dilemma seems to lie in length of the relationship. When guys are single or in the early stages of a relationship, they enjoy foreplay much more than when fully committed to the other person.
When they don’t know the girl well, foreplay can be as much fun as sex because they get to explore her, building up to the finale. On the other hand, in long-term relationships and marriages, sex is usually focused on the orgasm, and although foreplay may be used as a tool to get there, it’s not as exciting as before.
#2: It Helps Get Girls Off (More Than Once)
Simply put, guys love it when a girl is super into them, and if she wants to give them a hand or a blow job, which guy would say no to that?! Guys that like foreplay or do it anyway say they’re willing participants because no matter what some people may think about it, it’s still physical, and girls can get off more than once, which is a great turn on. It makes the experience more complete for her, and the more turned on the girl is, the more she’ll reciprocate, and the better the sex will be for both people.
#3: Not All Women Want The Same Foreplay Things
Foreplay is very situational, and the more guys get it through those pretty little heads of theirs that not all girls like the same thing, the more they’ll start to appreciate foreplay because that’s their chance to discover what makes that particular girl scream.
Communication before, during, and after sex can also be viewed as a type of foreplay or afterplay that can enhance the sexual experience, opening the doors to new pleasures not before experienced with any partners.
Psychologists agree that our most important sex organ is our tongue, and not for the reasons you or most guys out there would think. Talking about our sexual relationship means we communicate our likes and dislikes, and if we whisper the former into our partner’s ear, we’ve got ourselves some pretty great foreplay that men find incredibly seductive.
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