No, erotic capital has nothing to do with whether you prefer to get down and dirty with senior singles in Budapest or Bangkok, and it has everything to do with how sexually attractive your group perceives you to be. The notion of erotic capital dates back thousands of years, but the term is linked to the early 2000s and British sociologist Catherine Hakim.
One of the most iconic examples of huge erotic capital is none other than Marilyn Monroe, who was one of the pioneers in using sex appeal for financial or social gain. Mind you, erotic capital means much more than how good you are in bed because most people around you don’t even know that. Right?
Sociological Aspects of Erotic Capital
Erotic capital comes down to how much social connections, clients, and essentially profit in all spheres of life you can bring in based on your good looks. Not surprisingly, women tend to be much ‘richer’ in this department than men, although both sexes invest in it heavily through fitness training, plastic surgery and makeovers.
When it comes to sexual capital and race, there are certain stereotypes we just can’t get past, such as ripped black men being given high sexual status, particularly by white gay men. The same goes for Asian women, who have gained sexual capital thanks, again, to their relationships with white men. Interestingly, white men in China have substantial sexual capital because they are associated with the West, the ‘land’ of sexual experimentation and modernization.
Erotic capital goes hand in hand in importance with economic, cultural, and social capital, and it plays a distinctive role in wealthy modern societies. In essence, sexual capital consists of six elements: beauty, sexual attractiveness, social attractiveness, vivaciousness and energy, presentation, and sexuality. Individuals who were blessed with it, particularly women, are the ones who set the bar for everyone else, from career goals and satisfaction, to raising kids and having a lovely home, straight down to makeup tips, cooking skills, and bedroom skills.
So, What’s Your Score?
If you’re feeling down right now because you’re not 100 percent happy with the amount of erotic capital you have acquired so far (yes, it’s not just about winning the gene pool jackpot), there are clearly things you can do to become more attractive in the eyes of your peer group.
If you look at the six key elements of sexual capital, you’ll see that vivaciousness and energy, and presentation are right up there with beauty and sexuality. That means by working on your social skills and self-confidence, you can substantially increase your erotic capital and become more desirable on so many levels.
That being said, we’d never advocate plastic surgery, but we would absolutely advocate boosting your self-confidence just enough to step outside your comfort zone in social and sexual situations, including sexual experimentation with a long-term partner, making his or her fantasies come true, satisfying them in more ways than one, and drawing on their satisfaction and energy to, in turn, boost your own energy that you emit everywhere you go, increasing your attractiveness and erotic capital as a result. And if you have to do it in a public restroom, with a strap-on, dressed in leather from head to toe, so be it!
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